I am so so SO very sad for my darling friend K. I mentioned her a few weeks ago needing sticky vibes as her DH (also a dear friend) and her were going through their first IUI with drugs.
Long story, but the IUI worked and they were pregnant! It was so exciting and I was more happy for her than anyone else I have ever known.
But IF-bloggers, you know where this is going.
Today, they discovered a missed miscarriage at just past eight weeks. There was no heartbeat at their ultrasound.
I have been around IF long enough to know that this is too real of a possibility. It is too much of a reality for so many of us out there. Too many of YOU. I am so very upset about this. SO VERY UPSET that my darling friend is having to go through this.
It is terrible of me, because I have had a few other friends who have suffered a loss. Each one has been a huge sadness for my friends; but today I nearly lost it. I am so sad for my friends K & J.
Why them? Why now? I just don't get it.
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And yet today I am also very thankful. Why, you may ask? Because for all that we've been through with IF, I have never had to SUFFER a loss. I have never had to miss what I thought I was already going to have. I have never had to say goodbye before I even got to say hello. Never having had a BFP has been its own small blessing for me.
But really, today I am sad. I am so sad for all of you who have had to go through this. And for some reason on this day, I am even more sad for my dear friends. Oh, I am so very sorry...
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I'm so sorry to read about your friend K, unfortunately, this is just becoming all too common recently.
I will be brave and say you're right in that having never had a BFP only to have it snatch away from you is a blessing and something to be thankful for. I've had it happen 4 times and each time, you get that little bit more hope that THIS pregnancy, THIS little bean will be THE one that STICKS but all that does is double the heartache once the miscarriage happens because the hope is snatched away, along with the promise of what might be and that makes the hope harder to get back next time you're lucky enough to get a BFP.
K is lucky to have such a wonderful friend in you.
Again I'm so sorry and I hope that you and your friend K never have to experience miscarriage (again) and that you both get to hold a little miracle in your arms.
xx
Miscarriage is horrible...but for the 'fertility challenged' is is just unbearable. I was pregnant once, and after 12 weeks for whatever reason it ended. At the D&C, I had one to many people say "...oh, it will happen again, don't worry..."...and it just pushed me over the edge.
Be supportive...stay optimistic. That big guy upstairs has his reasons...even though we may not always like them.
Sending some good adoption vibes your way!
So sorry for your friend.
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